EN.MUHAMMADIYAH.OR.ID, YOGYAKARTA — The growing popularity of the childfree lifestyle has sparked renewed debate in Indonesia. The trend has gained traction on social media, where some people associate it with personal freedom, financial stability, and maintaining a youthful appearance.
Responding to the discussion, ‘Aisyiyah Chairperson Casmini said that, from an Islamic perspective, marriage serves a higher purpose. That purpose includes raising future generations.
Casmini made the remarks during the Harmoni Keluarga podcast aired on Friday (25/5). The discussion focused on the childfree phenomenon and its growing appeal among young people. She said the trend reflects changing attitudes toward marriage and family life.
Parenthood Remains Part of Marriage’ Purpose
Casmini referred to survey findings released by Statistics Indonesia in 2022 and 2023. The surveys found that some women of reproductive age preferred not to have children.
“This shows a shift in views about marriage,” she said. “In Islam, one purpose of marriage is to have children. In Islamic jurisprudence, this relates to hifz al-nasl, or preserving future generations.”
She explained that Islam views marriage as both an act of worship and a foundation for a peaceful family.
For that reason, children are not merely a biological consequence of marriage. They are also a trust and responsibility with spiritual value.
Economic Pressures and Childhood Trauma
According to Casmini, several factors contribute to the rise of childfree choices. One major factor is economic concern.
Many young adults see raising children as a significant financial burden. Daily expenses and rising education costs often influence their decisions.
“Some people believe having children increases economic responsibilities. They see living and education costs continuing to rise, so they choose not to have children,” she said.
Psychological factors also play an important role. Casmini said difficult childhood experiences can shape a person’s view of marriage and parenting. Family conflict, poor parenting, and divorce may leave lasting emotional scars.
“Past trauma often creates excessive anxiety about marriage,” she said. “Children who grow up in conflict-filled homes may fear repeating the same experiences.”
Social Media Shapes New Perceptions
Casmini also highlighted the influence of social media. She argued that many online narratives present childfree living as a symbol of freedom and comfort. According to her, such messages often gain acceptance without considering broader social and religious dimensions.
“Social media frequently portrays childfree life as easier, freer, and more enjoyable. Many people accept that narrative without examining the issue more comprehensively.”
As a response, she called for stronger family education and spiritual development among young adults. She encouraged premarital programs that address not only practical matters but also emotional and spiritual resilience.
“Young people need a complete understanding of marriage and family life,” she argued. “Spirituality must be strengthened so they can build resilient households.”
Family Life as a Trust, Not a Burden
Casmini also emphasized the need for psychological support for people dealing with unresolved trauma. She said professional counseling can help individuals process painful experiences and develop healthier perspectives on family life.
“If the trauma is severe, psychological assistance is important. People need opportunities to understand themselves and their family relationships more clearly.”
She also challenged the belief that children only create burdens and reduce personal freedom. According to Casmini, that view emerges when family life is seen solely through the lens of responsibility. In Islam, she said, responsibility is an entrusted duty rather than a source of hardship.
“Life is full of responsibilities. But in Islam, responsibility is a trust from God. When approached as worship, it does not feel like a burden.”
She added that spouses and children can become important sources of emotional support. Healthy family relationships can help individuals cope with stress and find greater happiness.
Concluding the discussion, Casmini urged people not to treat marriage as a passing trend or lifestyle choice.
“Marriage is not a trend,” she said. “It is a journey of values and worship. The presence of children is part of that journey and, God willing, helps create a peaceful and harmonious family.”
